Why You Need a Third Place for Your Mental Health This Winter
Today was daylight savings for the parts of the United States that still participate in it. I think that’s everyone except Arizona and Hawaii and maybe they’re on to something. Most of us appreciate that extra hour of sleep on Sunday morning, though the feeling fades quickly when we find ourselves leaving work on Monday in the dark. As the days get shorter and the weather turns colder, many people notice a shift in their mood. The long evenings and lack of sunlight can contribute to feelings of disconnection or loneliness.
That’s why I wanted to share something worth thinking about during these winter months and beyond: the idea of a third place. You might already be familiar with the term, but if not, here’s a quick overview. Our first place is home. Our second place is work. And our third place is the space beyond those two, where we can connect with others, relax, recharge, or simply enjoy being part of something outside our daily responsibilities.
I see examples of third places everywhere both in real life and on social media. They can take many forms: local gyms, CrossFit boxes, pickleball clubs, tennis teams, or Charlotte Girls Run Club meetups. But they aren’t limited to physical activity. I have friends who find their third place in all kinds of ways from volunteering at the local library or serving with non-profits that help feed children facing food insecurity, to gathering for a weekly Bible study or book club. And lately, I’ve noticed another trend: mahjong meetups are popping up in cities everywhere, creating a fun and social space for connection. My dad and his good friend meet every Saturday at the local farmers market just to catch up, enjoy the morning together, and visit with other locals in the community.
Your third place might look completely different and that’s the beauty of it. You might even have more than one. What matters most is having a third place a space where you feel connected, grounded, and reminded that you belong. Especially in the months when darkness comes early, those connections can make all the difference.
Reflection Questions
What spaces in your life give you a sense of belonging outside of home and work?
How does spending time in your third place affect your overall mood or sense of connection?
If you don’t currently have a third place, what kind of space or community might you like to explore this season?
If you’re feeling lonely or unsure where to begin finding your own third place, you don’t have to figure it out alone. The therapists at Halos Counseling can help you explore what connection looks like for you whether that’s rebuilding community, rediscovering joy, or creating meaningful spaces that support your mental and emotional well-being. Reach out today to start that conversation.
About the Author
Sarah Currie, Ph.D., LCMHC, is a licensed therapist practicing in Charlotte and Shelby, North Carolina. She helps individuals, couples, and families cultivate self-awareness, resilience, and meaningful connection both in therapy and through her writing.